Am I being selfish, when sometimes I sit and play with the children, but in the back of my mind, I am thinking how nice it would be to have some time to myself. Even just a few hours, one day a week.
Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my children very much, and I LOVE being a stay home Mum, but you are always going to have one of those days. My children are my life and my world, but sometimes, just sometimes it would be nice to have some time out.
They grow so fast, and I enjoy every minute with them, just watching them grow. I should enjoy it while I can, and I do. As one day they are not going to want to have much to do with me, they will be to busy with their own lives and things.
But just a few hours a week would be lovely, but I can’t see it happening just yet, I am working on it for next year though, you never know your luck.
My mother in law is wonderful and she takes the children when I have an appointment, or when I need to do something I can’t really take them to. But I feel guilty and rush home after the appointment. Not that I don’t trust her with the children, I just feel I should get back.
I choose to be a stay home Mum, and I love being able to be a stay home Mum, there are so many things that make being a Mum worthwhile. But just a few hours, and not feeling guilty about it, to not do anything special, just have a shower in peace, sit and enjoy a nice HOT cup of tea and just enjoy the silence.
I have to say though, when the children are not home, and I do manage to grab a couple of hours to myself, I really miss them. I know I am strange.
Do you think that I am being selfish?, Do you have the same feelings?.
October 21st, 2009 at 10:33 pm
I don’t think you are being selfish. No one says we loose our identity when we become moms. In fact, being a mom enhances us and adds to us not subtracts from us. We were us before we had kids and sometimes we still want to express ourselves. Selfish would be if you neglected your children needs for your own needs. Moms need to stop feeling guilty or selfish for being people. I blog because it helps me retain the individual me.
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October 22nd, 2009 at 6:44 am
No, not selfish at all. And perfectly normal to feel those feelings of mama guilt whether we are with them or away from them.
We are all better parents when we get some time away for ourselves!
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October 23rd, 2009 at 12:29 pm
Not selfish at all. I share these same feelings at some point everyday. Just 5 minutes. 5. Glorious. Minutes. To drink a cup of cofee while it is still warm - i must microwave my cup at least 3 times in that first hour!
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October 25th, 2009 at 7:41 pm
Thanks ladies for your lovely comments, it is always nice to know that there are others out there that feel the same. I am still me, and always will be.:)
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October 26th, 2009 at 12:44 am
Not at ALL selfish! We’re women as well as moms. We have our own needs and identities. You might want to ask your MIL if she would mind watching them an extra hour or so next time you have an appointment. Good luck!
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October 27th, 2009 at 10:52 am
No way — you are NOT being selfish at all!!! Its really important to have your own times and even though we feel guilty for it, we need it.
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October 29th, 2009 at 10:02 pm
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